Monique Knight is owner and manager of The Tui Centre Counselling Service. She is qualified as both Counsellor and Psychotherapist and has approx 20 experience working with people from a wide range of cultures and issues. She has worked in mental health services and in the community.

Monique is a member of NZAC and serves on their Ethics committee. The Tui Centre Ltd was opened in 2003 and offers counselling/psychotherapy to clients with issues such as depression and anxiety. The Tui Centre Ltd also offers couple counselling, Skype counselling, vocational training and career services. You can find out more about The Tui Centre at www.tuicentre.co.nz

- New Year Calm. Remember that holiday you had at the beginning of the year? Remember how calm you were. Do you want that back? For more click here.

- Are you a push-over? Sometimes we may not be sure whether to say ‘yes’ or ‘no’ simply because we haven’t had time to think about it, so we are easily steamrollered into saying ‘yes’. For more click here.

- Do you feel guilty when you say no? Do you justify yourself when you don’t need to? For more click here.

- Yes you can say “No” Can you say no to people when you need to? Would you like to be able to? For more click here.

- Creating More Choices There are a number of limitations that impact on our decision making. Often these things limit our choices without us even realising, The consequence is that it can lessen the amount of space we feel we have when issues arise. For more click here.

- Do you make decisions with the correct information? Assumptions are interesting things. Someone was telling me the other day that they hade been looking to buy a house with quiet neighbours. They looked at a house next to a church. They played sports most Sundays so they weren’t worried about people being around at that time. Churches are quiet aren’t they? The people who go there are well behaved aren’t they. Churches only have people in them at respectable hours don’t they? For more click here.

- Feelings and Choices. Do you make rash decisions in the heat of the moment? Does your heart rule your head? Whether we like it or not our choices are often impacted on by our emotions. Even when we are trying not to let them impact on our emotions they probably are because we are trying so hard for them not to impact. For more click here.

- Decision Foundations. What are the foundations for making sound decisions? This is another instalment on our series on decision making. For more click here.

- When making your decision it helps to know the difference between wants and needs. This means that you can be clear about what you are deciding and prioritising. I may want a Lamborghini but what I need is transport. I may want a burger, fries and a shake but what I need is a nutritious meal. For more click here.

- Decision Making Personality Type. When it comes to making important decisions I notice that impulsive people often rush into things and then realise that they haven’t thought it through and there are consequences they haven’t thought of. On the other hand worriers take so long to make a decision that they miss opportunities. For more click here.

- Decision Making Tips. Do you find it difficult to make decisions? Do you want to know some ways to make decisions easier? Well here are some tips for making decisions. For more click here.

- Binging is a type of panic. Binging is a type of panic. When food is deprived or we are emotionally vulnerable food becomes the solution to settle or sooth the panic, anxiety or big feeling. A binge is out of control, desperate and able to devour anything in sight because we are just so hungry that we will die if we can’t dill this hole and get rid of the anxiety. It’s like a Mother with a tantruming child screaming “alright yes you can have anything if you will just shut up!” It is said in helpless rage not with love. For more click here.

- Binge and Beating. Do you feel ashamed when you have overeaten? Do you feel like a failure when you can’t lose weight? For the next instalment on our feature on binging from a counsellors perspective go to Easymix.co.nz and click on The Knowledge bank. For more click here.

- Mind Power and Body Control. When you are able to combat the urges of your body and continue to deprive it, do you feel a sense of power? In that moment when you think you are in control and think you are achieving something because you haven’t eaten yet, it is this sense of power that is the addictive part of the starve binge cycle. For more click here.

- The Mechanics of The Binge.. For more click here.

- Monique's Confidence Building Tips. For more click here.

- Are you scared to try things in case they are not good enough? Do you stop yourself doing what you want in case other people criticise you. Well you are not alone. Learning to separate yourself from other people’s opinions is an important life skill. For more click here.

- Are you a chatterbox? Do you talk when you get nervous? Do you wish you hadn’t said that? For more click here.

- Would you like to feel more confident? Do you look at other people and think they seem more confident than you are? Do you wish you could be like that too? For more click here.

- Are you someone who is easy going and then things build up and then finally you explode/roar? Some people call this “garbage bagging”. For more click here.

- Do you look after yourself? Is your general wellbeing a priority or is it only something you think of when you are sick or fed up? For more click here.

- Do you say mean things to yourself when you’re frustrated? Do you blame and criticise yourself when things are not perfect? Do you call yourself names or put yourself down if you don’t get things right? These are what I call short cuts and understanding how they work will help you change. For more click here.

- Who is the person you admire the most? What is it about them that inspires’ you? Having people around that you admire and want to be like, helps us grow as people. For more click here.

- Do you see yourself as the only one who will compromise? Do you feel lost and that no one cares what you want or think? Do you feel like a victim? It is possible to make this different. For more click here.

- When you make a mistake do you think, Stuff it, I might as well keep going I’m already in trouble... There is another way. For more click here.

Different Thinking

Sad, Mad, Bad

Goals

Worrying

Emotional Fitness

Stress Levels